On one knee is still best

By TARA DOOLEY Copyright 2010 Hosuton Chronicle
Feb. 12, 2010, 4:04PM
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A formal proposal remains very much part of the marriage ritual for many brides and grooms, said Haley Hughes, owner of En Vogue Events, a wedding and event planning company based in the Heights. Getting it right can set the tone for what one hopes is a long and happy life together.

“Even if the couple knows it is coming,” said Hughes, “it is still a moment of excitement that sets everything in motion.”

For many, Valentine's Day offers just the right occasion. Hughes offers the following tips for getting it just right:
DO

1. Talk with the prospective bride (though Hughes doesn't discourage women from popping the question) about whether to ask parental permission. Sure, it's old-fashioned, but “dads can be very upset if boys skip that integral part.”

2. Pick a sentimental location. It doesn't have to be across the world on a beach at sunset. A park bench or restaurant that means something to the couple can make a nice setting.

3. Allow a bride a say in the engagement ring. After all, she is the one who will wear it. Proposing with inexpensive costume jewelry allows the couple to pick out a ring together.

4. Be creative. But no matter what, getting on one knee is still a preferred approach. “It is that movie thrill that every bride wants to have.”

5. Express your feelings. Four words won't cut it. “You don't have to go all Hallmark card on them, but say something from the heart.”
DON'T

1. Propose via JumboTron. Most women don't like it. Plus, it can lead to public humiliation.

2. Throw too much money at the proposal. It's the start of a long, pricey process that includes invitations and flowers and, perhaps eventually, braces and college tuition for children.

3. Include one family and not the other. If you propose in front of one set of parents, you run the risk of turning in-laws into outlaws at the starting gate.

4. Buy an engagement ring and then carry it around in your pocket waiting for the right moment. You wouldn't be the first to lose it.

5. Re-gift. If you bought a ring for one woman and that didn't work out, don't give it to another woman.

tara.dooley@chron.com